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Playing Nice in the Sandbox

Thumper said it best when he said if you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all!

Recently, someone who I used to consider a close friend got engaged. We had a falling out over 6 months ago and I honestly didn't think it would last this long without us talking but that's just how it has ended up. I truly believe in quality versus quantity when it comes to people in my life. I choose who I want to confide in very wisely, they have a look into your life and that is a very vulnerable area. When this girl and I were close, we talked about being in each other's weddings and going through adulthood together. Our significant others work for the same company so we knew we'd be lifers. Well, as life would have it we had a falling out and I didn't expect for life's events to unfold the way they have. Long story short, her SO offended me one night and since then we haven't spoken. It would honestly be an easy fix but I was truly upset about it so I put my foot down for once. I am always the first to apologize, always clearing the air regardless of it being my fault or not. This time, I was refusing. I was hurt by someone I trusted. That was painful and I built a wall.

Well here we are more than half a year later, and now I'm wondering how events would have played out if I were there. I ended up "liking" the photo on social media even though I know she doesn't care of my excitement for her. She has since "blocked" me from seeing her accounts, which is fine. I just deleted her because seeing her joy and being left out since neither of us were interested in fixing the issue hurt. These were people we hung out with on the daily, every weekend, her SO's sister did our photos, we celebrated holidays and birthdays with them. I guess at the end of the day, we all handle things dramatically differently.

I do wish her well and all the best in her new adventure of marriage. I hope that maybe we can mend our ties but life's plan is grander than mine. I just pray in all things that we can one day come to a point where we are friends again. After pain, you may be able to be as close but I miss speaking to her and having time with her. Friendships are so weird now that we're adults!

Value your friends and make memories. Trust those who have your best interest at heart and support you.

..xobb

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